Become a Master at Conflict Management at Home or Work
What you’ll learn
Conflict management skills to solve problems and maintain healthy relationships
How to prevent disagreements from becoming unhealthy conflict
A concrete framework and steps for entering into difficult conversations and resolving conflict
The mindset, confidence and skills to facilitate conflict resolution
The advantages and disadvantages of different communication styles
How to calm and manage yourself during conflict
Conflict management at home and on the job with lots of real-world examples
Requirements
A willingness to learn a new way of thinking
A desire to improve your communication and work through conflicts at home or at work
Description
What students are saying”Dr. Allen is very knowledgeable instructor. He gave great examples during the course. All of his shared stories added more “life-like” explanations to his examples. He really knows his material . Very helpful course.” Danet Leon”100% happy. THANK YOU, Roger! This course has been an enormous help. The structure of the course, the way you explain the skills and principles, and the way you relate the theory to the real world, the examples you give really helped me to understand the theory and the tools. The way you speak and use visual support makes it very easy to follow and comprehend. Your empathetic communication style and realistic way of portraying things (e.g. You won’t succeed all the time, but keep practicing to improve) was also very helpful and made it easy to relate to the topics you were talking about. From the first lecture on I started incorporating my new knowledge into everyday life, where of course smaller or larger conflicts arise all the time. And with each step I felt safer, better prepared and was able to reach better solutions as I might have without this course. It should be a mandatory course for everyone. Thanks again.” Anna Henker”The course was amazing. I have learned so much which is now an asset I will be using to solve future conflicts. I wish this valuable information could reach many more people.” Vincent Mandi Muli”This course is a MUST. For anyone wanting to sharpen their communication skills and truly become a “master at resolving conflict”, whether it be at work or home, this course will change your life. Roger is a master on this topic and his teaching, his stories, and his tips are gold for the mind that is hungry for knowledge. Thank you Roger for sharing your wisdom.” Ronald BurnettOverview of courseThis course will give you skills in conflict management to successfully turn disagreements and conflict into productive communication so that you can not only solve your shared problems but also grow in emotional intelligence and experience enjoyable connections with others.The dictionary defines conflict as a serious disagreement or argument. Synonyms include dispute, quarrel, squabble, discord, strife, antagonism. These are not pleasant words. And yet it is likely that you understand their meaning not because you’ve looked them up in a dictionary but because you’ve experienced them. We’ve all been caught up in the unpleasant experience of conflict. For example,· You’re not able to sleep due to a neighbor’s late-night music or barking dog.· You’re on a sales team which has won a big contract. Your new customer wants your product quickly and at as low a price as possible. However, engineering wants to slow the project down to ensure that all technical and quality standards are met. You’re in a tug of war.· A few of the neighbors have not been paying their homeowners association dues. Others are violating the property rules.· You’ve come up with good technical solutions to a thorny problem but wonder if there is the political will to implement your recommendations.· Your boss wants you to work overtime this weekend when you’ve planned a big outing with your family.· A teenager has trouble getting off the computer to do his chores.· You and your partner have totally different opinions when it comes to a major life decision.· A young adult child has returned home and is now living off of you and your spouse claiming that she hasn’t been able to find a good job.This is just a small sampling of situations that require conflict management with emotional intelligence. Notice a few characteristics of these situations: your emotions are aroused, the stakes are high, the outcome is uncertain, and opinions vary.You probably don’t like dealing with these situations. They disrupt your peace of mind and cause you emotional discomfort. Unresolved conflict is why family members become alienated and half of all marriages end in divorce. It also accounts for 50% of the turnover in companies. Dealing with conflict is not easy.Conflict is inevitableAnd yet conflict, at least disagreement, is inevitable. We know this. We come from different backgrounds, have distinct personalities, perspectives, needs, values, roles, goals and priorities, all of which set us up to experience disagreements if not outright conflict.So, the question is not whether you’ll experience conflict but rather how you will handle it. And, unfortunately, we have little training in conflict resolution skills.Our natural tendencies are harmfulMy experience as a psychologist, marriage counselor, business consultant, and executive coach has taught me that many of our natural tendencies are harmful. They make things worse rather than better. Some people, when facing conflict, go into an aggressive and fight mode, others run emotionally and resort to silence or appeasement, and still others distract and avoid. Although our natural tendencies are intended to reduce the impact of conflict, they actually and make it worse in the long run.Dialogue-key to conflict resolutionTherefore, learning conflict management is one of the most important skills you can learn. I teach you to deal with conflict through dialogue, a communication skill in which people listen to understand one another’s point of view and then agree upon options to solve problems and resolve their disagreements.This process encourages deep listening, a willingness to share your own point of view and search for solutions that are good for all and not just a minority. Dialogue is talking openly—even about subjects that have historically been “undiscussable.” The more openly you can talk, the better will be your solutions to conflict and the more unified and committed you and others will be to carry them out.The most successful people are good at conflict managementIn fact, I’ll go so far as to say that the most successful people, in any walk of life, are good at conflict management. They are willing to face conflict directly and are even willing to enter into difficult conversations that others want to flee and avoid. They do this because they understand the dynamics of conflict and how to create trusting conditions that will open up communication and lead to positive, even amazing outcomes.Importance of conflict resolution in your personal relationshipsHoward Markman and his colleagues studied 150 couples for 13 years. The couples would come into their lab each year and furnish a massive amount of information about their marriages. In addition, they would subject themselves to being video-taped which the researchers would then analyze for patterns and themes. Their conclusion, at the end of this long-term study was that “it is not how much you love each other, how good your sex life is, or what problems you have with money that best predicts the future quality of your marriage….the best predictor of marital success is how you handle conflicts and disagreements.”This is also true in all our personal relationships. How many people are alienated from extended family members because of the difficulty of holding good, honest conversations? Or how many parents and children are alienated because of their inability to communicate effectively? Dialogue changes that.Importance of conflict resolution in your organizationFurthermore, I believe that organizations are filled with intelligent, capable people who fall back on poor styles of communicating because it is not safe to express their opinions. The consequences to organizations can be serious if not devastating. Respect is lost. Trust is destroyed. Only a fraction of the ideas necessary for the organizations long-term survival make it to the light of day. The best employees leave and those who stay disengage and do only enough to hold onto their jobs.Knowing how to use dialogue to resolve conflict changes that. Dialogue is the means by which you surface conflict and have meaningful conversations in your personal relationships and organizations. Such conversations make your relationships and organizations healthier and more effective.It is my intent to give you the awareness and conflict management skills to face and handle the difficult conversations of your life. And as you learn and apply these skills, you’ll still have differences of opinions and disagreements, but you’ll be able to navigate them with greater confidence and skill.A little about meMy name is Roger K. Allen, Ph.D. I’m a psychologist, author, executive coach and business consultant with many years of helping people work through conflict both in their personal lives and on the job. I’ve helped hundreds of couples, business partners, executives, department managers and employees work through difficult conflicts to create healthy and harmonious relationships. And I’ve taught many of these methods to other trainers and consultants throughout the world.
Overview
Section 1: Understanding Conflict
Lecture 1 Introduction to Conflict Management
Lecture 2 Tips to Get the Most from the Course
Lecture 3 All Course Handouts
Lecture 4 Disagreements vs. Unhealthy Conflict
Lecture 5 Exercise: Identifying Three Conflicts
Lecture 6 Mike Blows His Future-an Example of Poor Conflict Resolution
Lecture 7 Phases of Escalation
Lecture 8 Building Trust-An Essential Part of Conflict Management
Section 2: Styles of Communication
Lecture 9 Four Styles of Communication and Conflict Management: Part I
Lecture 10 Four Styles of Communication and Conflict Management: Part II
Lecture 11 The Dashed Hope-a Story of Dialogue and Emotional Intelligence at Work
Lecture 12 What Would You Do?
Lecture 13 Exercise: What Would You Do?
Lecture 14 Exercise: Identifying Your Communication Style
Lecture 15 Five Patterns of Communication and Conflict Resolution
Section 3: From Conflict to Collaboration
Lecture 16 Dialogue–The Pathway to Collaboration and Conflict Management
Lecture 17 Adam–the New Supervisor
Lecture 18 The Conflict Resolution Model
Lecture 19 Adam Chooses Collaboration
Lecture 20 Case Study: The Failed Strategy
Lecture 21 The Failed Strategy: An Example of Poor Conflict Resolution in a Leadership Team
Lecture 22 Exercise: Assessing My Readiness for Dialogue
Section 4: Me First–Getting Ready for Dialogue
Lecture 23 Collusion-The Opposite of Conflict Management
Lecture 24 Adopting a Mindset to Resolve Conflict: Taking Responsibility
Lecture 25 Dyslexic
Lecture 26 Adopting a Mindset to Resolve Conflict: Dealing with Feelings
Lecture 27 Adopting a Mindset to Resolve Conflict: Committing to Outcomes
Lecture 28 Should I Initiate Dialogue?
Lecture 29 Risk-Benefit Analysis
Lecture 30 Case Study: A Young Intern
Section 5: Phases of Conflict Resolution: Preparation and Invitation
Lecture 31 Overview of the Steps of Dialogue and the Steps of Conflict Resolution
Lecture 32 The Steps of Dialogue Handout
Lecture 33 Phase I: Preparation
Lecture 34 Exercise: Work Through Your Thoughts and Feelings
Lecture 35 Exercise: Evaluating Your Commitment to Collaboration
Lecture 36 Phase II: Invitation
Lecture 37 Invitation Skill: Leveling
Lecture 38 Invitation Skills: Clarifying Intent; Clarifying Concerns; Collaboration
Section 6: Phases of Conflict Resolution: Exploration and Collaboration
Lecture 39 Phase III: Exploration
Lecture 40 The Skills of Exploration
Lecture 41 The Skills of Exploration Continued
Lecture 42 Case Study: Agreeing on Property
Lecture 43 The Role of Ground Rules
Lecture 44 A Deeper Look at Inquiry
Lecture 45 The Sleepover: An Example of Listening
Lecture 46 A Deeper Look at Advocacy
Lecture 47 The Immediacy Skill: Strengthening Your Advocacy
Lecture 48 Collaboration
Lecture 49 Collaboration Continued
Lecture 50 Collaboration: Arriving at Win/Win Agreements
Lecture 51 Putting it All Together
Lecture 52 Conclusion
Lecture 53 Bonus Content
Individuals who want to improve their ability to handle conflict in their personal lives,Employees who are experiencing conflict on the job,Leaders who want to create a work climate that encourages open dialogue and conflict resolution
Course Information:
Udemy | English | 4h 21m | 3.92 GB
Created by: Roger Kay Allen, Ph.D.
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