Parenting Skills to Raise Responsible Mature Children
What you’ll learn
Establish loving authority in your home
Create conditions to open up communication and build trust
Build an atmosphere of harmony rather than criticism, bickering, or putdowns
Resolve disagreements and conflicts constructively and without power struggles
Give up parenting habits that destroy self-esteem and weaken relationships
Teach your children to assume responsibility for their feelings and actions
Set limits and enforce discipline without being heavy-handed
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Here’s just a small sampling of what my students and other professionals are saying”In my career as a specialist providing treatment to adolescents and their families, I have seen many parenting theories, models and books but nothing which rises to the stature of this work by Dr. Allen.” Michael E. Berrett, Ph.D., Psychologist, nationally known clinical teacher, and CEO of Center for Change“The best course ever… I do not regret to invest my time and money in this course. Absolutely clear and practical for parents.” Lammuansang Tombing“Wow, I wish I had done this course before I had kids. My kids are teens now and I regret that I didn’t have this knowledge and skills to raise my kids. This is super helpful and even though it seems too late for me, I still try to apply some of the concepts explained. Thank you!” Rosa Sam“Incredible course! Highly recommend for parents AND teachers!” Yana Uvarova “This course was so enlightening and well structured. I really liked all of the examples that were given. This really helped me apply the skill correctly as well as cement it in my knowledge. It was very helpful to be able to download the PDF’s to go over again as many times as needed… I already see improvement as I work to apply one thing at a time.” Chandee Herrera“You have done a masterful job and your work will be a great blessing to thousands of parents.” Dr. Dennis Deaton, Award-winning Author: Ownership Spirit and Co-founder of Quma Learning Systems“Roger Allen takes a difficult subject that is close to our hearts, and in an engaging manner, inspires us to become better parents and grandparents.” Hyrum Smith, Co-Founder FranklinCoveyParenting Matters!What happens between parents and children matters. Through our parenting we shape the lives of our children and prepare them to become happy and successful adults and positive contributors to society. Therefore, learning the skills of effective parenting will be one of the most worthwhile ventures you ever pursue.Yet, doing this work is not easyAlthough rewarding, there is frankly little that is as hard as raising children. Family life is chaotic. Children come into the world helpless and are totally dependent on their parents for all their care. The process of growing physically and emotionally is a slow journey that takes many years. In the meantime, children make incredible emotional and physical demands on their parents. These demands require an abundance of understanding, patience, perseverance, dedication, even emotional maturity.During the course I’m going to talk about many of the challenges that come at us almost daily. For example, what do you say or do when?Your kids bicker and fight.They are unmotivated and don’t want to help around the house.A child consistently lies.Your son or daughter brings home a really bad report card.A daughter is devastated by the remarks of some friends and becomes very depressed.Your son pitches a major fit when his screen time is over.These are just a few of the myriad of challenges that we face as parents every day.The mistakes we make as parentsSuch challenges set us up to do one of two things: We over-manage our children by controlling, directing, lecturing, forcing, telling, nagging, criticizing, threatening. Or, we overindulge them (make life easy) by sympathizing, giving in, rescuing, fixing or doing for our them what they ought to do for themselves. Either way, our children fail to learn from their experiences or grow in emotional maturity and self-responsibility.Who Am I?Hi, my name is Roger Allen. I’m a psychologist, author, coach, consultant, teacher, and more importantly, a father and grandfather. I’ve studied parenting and family relationships for 30 plus years and have developed a set of basic principles and skills to help you create loving relationships with your children and empower them to become responsible, emotionally mature children and adults. The principles and skills I will teach you have been tested with thousands of people throughout the world.My overall purpose, in this parenting course, is to teach you principles and skills to create a nurturing climate in your home. This is a home which blends the qualities of love and compassion with clear expectations and accountability. Most parents are good at one or the other—creating a loving, responsive environment but not so good at setting expectations. Or the other way around. They’re good at setting expectations but not good at compassion and love. I’m going to teach you to do both—hold high standards and yet create a safe and loving environment.Here’s what we’ll doIn the first part of the course, I’ll create a framework of successful parenting by helping you understand the basic principles or characteristics of a nurturing home. By understanding these principles you’ll become less reactive and become far more knowledgeable what to do and say to not only solve problems but help you children learn and grow.Most of the course is about improving how you communicate and interact with your children. I’ll present a model (I call it the Key Moment Model) that will help you learn to communicate in ways that are positive and strengthening to your children rather than weakening and harmful to them and your relationships.The remaining lessons are all about specific strategies and communication skills. You’ll learn how to:Establish loving authority within your home.Open up communication and build trust.Build an atmosphere of harmony rather than criticism, bickering and putdowns.Resolve disagreements and conflicts constructively and without power struggles.Give up parenting habits that destroy self-esteem and weaken relationships.Teach your children to assume responsibility for their feelings and actions.Set limits and enforce discipline without being heavy handed.Concrete skillsThis course is not theory. I teach very concrete skills (what to do and say when such and such an event occurs in your home) and then demonstrate the skills with examples of communication between parents and their children.The skills not only work but are immediately useful. By learning and practicing them you will improve the way you parent so you can enjoy your children and positively influence their development. I have been teaching these principles and skills for many years and I am pleased to make them more widely available in this course.
Section 1: Welcome and Overview
Lecture 1 Course Purpose & Overview
Lecture 2 How to Get the Most From This Course
Lecture 3 The Goal of Parenting
Section 2: Family Climate
Lecture 4 Overview of Family Climate
Lecture 5 The Permissive Climate
Lecture 6 The Authoritarian Climate
Lecture 7 The Uninvolved Climate
Lecture 8 The Nurturing Climate
Lecture 9 Family Climate Summary Chart
Section 3: Principles of a Nurturing Home
Lecture 10 Overview of Nine Principles of a Nurturing Home
Lecture 11 Nine Principles of a Nurturing Home – Document
Lecture 12 If…Then… Exercise
Lecture 13 If – Then Exercise Worksheet
Section 4: Weakening vs. Strengthening Communication
Lecture 14 The Key Moment Model
Lecture 15 The Key Moment Model – Reference Guide
Lecture 16 Over-Managing & Overindulging – Reference Guide
Lecture 17 Maturation Over Problem-Solving
Lecture 18 The Cycle of Strengthening Behavior
Lecture 19 What We Do That Strengthens
Lecture 20 Outcomes of Our Communication
Section 5: Parenting Skills to Create Safe and Trusting Conditions (Empathy Skills)
Lecture 21 Overview of the Empathy Skills
Lecture 22 Respecting
Lecture 23 Affirming
Lecture 24 Listening-Part I
Lecture 25 Listening-Part II-Mirroring
Lecture 26 Supporting
Lecture 27 Summary/Overview of the Empathy Skills
Section 6: Parenting Skills for Speaking the Truth (Honesty Skills)
Lecture 28 Overview of Honesty Skills
Lecture 29 Disclosing
Lecture 30 Carefronting
Lecture 31 Reproving
Lecture 32 The Reproving Skill
Lecture 33 Negotiating Agreements
Lecture 34 The Negotiating Skill
Lecture 35 Harnessing Harmful Behavior
Lecture 36 The Harnessing Skill
Lecture 37 Summary of the Honesty Skills
Section 7: Parenting Skills to Instill Responsibility (Responsibility Skills)
Lecture 38 Overview and Creating Structure
Lecture 39 Enforcing Consequences-Part I
Lecture 40 Enforcing Consequences-Part II-Making Expectations Clear
Lecture 41 Guide for Enforcing Consequences
Lecture 42 Encouraging Autonomy
Lecture 43 Asking Valuing Questions
Lecture 44 Valuing Questions Reference Guide
Lecture 45 Summary of Responsibility Skills
Section 8: Parenting with a Soft Heart
Lecture 46 Parenting with a Soft Heart
Lecture 47 Reference Guide for Stop – Look – Listen – Choose
Section 9: Final Word
Lecture 48 Final Word
Lecture 49 Bonus Lecture
Lecture 50 Guide to the HERO Principle
Lecture 51 Chart for Principles-Behavior-Outcomes
Lecture 52 Audio Files (MP3s) for Downloading
Section 10: Bonus lectures: Questions & Answers
Lecture 53 Bonus Lecture: He Doesn’t Want to Go to School, What Should I Do?
Lecture 54 Bonus Lecture: How Do I Have Rational Conversations with My Daughter?
Lecture 55 Bonus Lecture: How Do I Get Her to Open Up (and Grow Up)?
Lecture 56 Bonus Lecture: How Do We Teach Him About Consequences?
Lecture 57 Bonus Lecture: How Do We Talk to Her About Her Break-Up?
Lecture 58 Bonus Lecture: How Do I Get Them to Work Without Being Authoritarian?
Lecture 59 Bonus Lecture: How Do I Deal with His Anger?
Lecture 60 Bonus Lecture: What About a Broken Curfew?
Lecture 61 Bonus Lecture: How Do I Deal with Distrust?
Lecture 62 Bonus Lecture: Inappropriate Games & Music?
This course is for parents (toddlers to teens) who need tools and skills to build happier relationships and emotionally healthy children.,Any parent who needs new strategies for appropriately dealing with a child or teenager.,New parents who want to raise successful, responsible children.
Udemy | English | 5h 31m | 4.75 GB
Created by: Roger Kay Allen, Ph.D.